The Secret to Finding Your Forever Stylist
We all know that feeling. Heart-pounding, knee-buckling, stomach-churning kind of feeling. You think, “Will she or won’t she? Oooooh, I hope today’s the day!” And then it happens. You spin around in that chair…and your new stylist has given you the perfect hair. You have found the one.
Of course, most of us go through many years of untold heartbreak before riding off into the sunset with our forever stylist. And not to say that hair soul mates don’t exist, but both stylist and client have work to do in order to make the relationship great. Here are a few things to think about when going in for that first appointment.
Give it time. There are so many types of services and some of them take longer than others. If you book for a basic color retouch but what you actually need is a full highlight, your stylist may not have booked enough time for you. When in doubt, schedule a consult. They are usually free and will help make sure everyone is on the same page. Don’t rush through the first date! Give this relationship the time it deserves.
Bring pictures. Having great reference photos is basically the stylist equivalent of showing up with a dozen roses. IT IS ALWAYS A GOOD IDEA. I like to ask for two types of photo: celebrity looks you adore plus a snap or two of you looking your best. Yes, Reese Witherspoon has amazing hair and that cut would look super cute on you. But Reese could never be you and your hair is likely at least sliiiightly different. Today is all about you, baby.
Communication is everything. It may be love at first sight, but we’re not quite to the know-you-in-and-out, finish-each-other’s-sentences stage of our relationship. If something isn’t quite working for you, we really do want to know! It may feel a little harsh or awkward at first, but we have to be honest if we’re going to trust each other, right?
Make time for tweaks. Just like in romance, sometimes it takes a few tries to get everything juuuuust right. Especially if you have short hair, see if your stylist offers free adjustments like a bang or neck trim. After your hair gets used to it’s new shape, sometimes you realize you actually need a little more off here or a bit of a tweak there. Come next appointment, your stylist will know your hair even better!
Go for the second date. Every relationship needs careful cultivation. Just as a string of first dates does not an s.o. make, jumping from stylist to stylist may not be the best way to always look your best. Even if you follow all the rules above, it’s a lot more likely you are going to get some questionable hair services if you don’t ever give a stylist a second chance. We need time to get to know everything about your fabulous self.
Bottom line, your stylist wants to make you happy. We sometimes just need your help and a little time to get there. With openness and a dash of preparation, you’re giving your stylist the best possible chance to sweep you and your perfect hair off your feet.
Photo courtesy Cesar Saravia